Why I Should’ve been in my 20’s in the 90’s

Sometimes I feel so out of place in this day and time. I don’t agree with a lot of the things my peers care to do or find happiness in. I feel like an alien amongst some other species. I’ve always had these feelings deep down, but I never could understand why. I never understood how someone who is so full of life has so few friends my own age? How could I have not experience the things my friends had? Then it hit me one day. I’m way before my time. I have an old soul. I was born too late. I should have been in my 20’s in the 90’s and here are my reasons why.

Reason One: My Hair

I never really jumped on the bundle train. Now granted I may not be all natural and I wear weave from time to time, but I prefer soft short styles. I never spend a lot on my hair and although some chicks are brainwashed by social media and reality TV, I never saw a reason to. I’m not saying women in the 90’s didn’t get sew-ins and spend major bucks on their hair; I’m saying my style is more Debbie from “Friday” than Kylie Jenner.

Reason Two: My Clothes

Okay now time for the list of all my never evers (lol).

Never had a pair of True Religion jeans.

Never had a pair of Jordons.

Never had a Pink Jogging suit.

Never had a pair of UGGS.

Never had a Gucci belt.

Okay and that’s just to name a few.

I’m a weirdo at heart and a lot of the cool laid back women from the 90’s were the same way. I would much rather spend $250 on clothes and leave with 8 outfits before I spend $250 on a pair of shoes. This does not mean I never treat myself. From time to time I may get an expensive item to add to my collection, but a simple floral dress and cute boots or high waist vintage guess jeans and a crop top is way more my speed.

Reason Three: My Music

The music today is just not what is use to be. My playlist is often playing SWV, Total, Boys II Men, Tevin Campbell, Dru Hill, Kelly Price, Angie Stone, D’Angelo, Monica, Brandy R. Kelly, Biggie, 2 Pac, (okay let me stop, I could go all day) and the list goes on and on. As far as new music goes I’m usually drawn to music that uses a lot of samples or has an old school feel to it, mainly neo soul or independent artist. I prefer music with meaning over music with a nice beat….and that’s it. I guess I’m old school because I still feel music speaks to your soul and Lean, pills, and pointless hooks don’t speak to my soul.

Reason Four: My T.V. Selections

I went 5 whole years without cable. A lot of people look at me crazy when I say that but, there never was really anything on TV I wanted to watch (Now I do have 1 guilty pleasure and that’s Love and Hip Hop. I’m sorry but it’s addictive). I have every Martin season on DVD, I can watch Different World all day, Fresh Prince is a Personal favorite, and I know every word to every Eddie Murphy Movie from the 90’s. To me 90’S TV showed African Americans in a more positive light and you didn’t have to turn the TV every 5 seconds to make sure you’re child wasn’t seeing something inappropriate.

Reason Five: My Idea of a Good Time

Every time I watch Love Jones I say, “This is definitely my idea of a good time.” Poetry, wine, inappropriate jokes, house parties, and night rides around the city. I did party once, but honestly in order to have a goodtime in that environment heavy intoxication was usually involved, lol. I remember during a break up one year I found myself frequenting a poetry bar. It was so refreshing and I never felt so comfortable in a social atmosphere. The perfect night for me would be a few close friends of mixed genders (you know me need both opinions for deep intellectual conversations about life, love, and social issues), wine, food, and good Neo soul playing in the background. Simple and fulfilling.

Reason Six: My Idea of Men and Love

I am truly a hopeless romantic. I still believe in love and I have yet to turn into a bitter woman who chants K. Michelle albums. I still believe in dating, and I mean actually dating. Going out, talking, and sharing intimate thoughts. This whole new dating scene is so blah. There is not a lot of courting, marriage is very rarely the main goal, and loyalty is almost nonexistent. It’s actually kind of sad. I’m in a mind frame of Martin and Gina in a world full of Tygas and Blac Chynas. (Shade)

Reason Seven: How I think

I tend to be a little bit deeper than the average person my age. I still read books and I still listen to CDs. I prefer a phone conversation over text messages and I respect my elders. I think of consequences before I act and I prefer to work hard than find an easy road to fame. I keep my personal business off of social media and I never hang with people based off status. I’m humble and I’m always grateful. Those may sound like common things that everyone should do, but common sense is no longer too common.

I know there is more millennials out there that feel like outsiders. My only hope is that the saying “History repeats itself”, is true and things are slowly going back to the way that it use to be. Going back to a time where life was fun, colors were vibrant, success was common, haters were few, and love was infinite. The 90’S